Brief Introduction to Qingdao (Shandong, China) - My Hometown

Introduction to Qingdao

Qingdao, the host city for the 29th Olympic Sailing Regatta in 2008, is a coastal city located between north latitude 35.35' to 37.09' and east longitude 119.30' to 121.00'.

The city is seated with the Yellow Sea on the east and south, adjoins the cities of Yantai, Rizhao and Weifang to the northeast, southwest and west respectively, and faces North Korea, South Korea and Japan across the sea. The total area of Qingdao is 10,654 square kilometers with the urban area totaling 1,102 square kilometers.

The population of Qingdao totals 7,104,900, while the urban population is 2,376,000.

Qingdao has a monsoon climate of north temperate zone with featuring a marine climate, such as moist air, abundant rainfall and four distinctive seasons. It is neither too hot in summer nor too cold in winter. The annual average temperature is 12.2¡£C. The hottest month is August with an average temperature of 25¡£C and the coldest month is January with an average temperature of 1.3¡£C. The annual average rainfall is 775.6mm. Qingdao is a city ideally suitable for living and vacation.

The city is known as a summer resort with a rich historical background and natural beauty. The landscape of Qingdao is often described as the pearl on the crown of the Yellow Sea. Qingdao is one of China's five largest ports and the only port with an annual handling capacity of 100 million tons of coal, ore, petroleum, containers and bulk cargo.

There are many tourist attractions in Qingdao, including Mount Laoshan, bathing beaches and buildings with European and Japanese style. Many events, such as the Qingdao Foreign Economy and Trade Fair, the Qingdao International Beer Festival, the Love of Sea Festival, the Cherry-blossom Festival and Summer of Qingdao (Arts Festival) are held annually, entertaining thousands of domestic and overseas visitors.

Qingdao is a major city for finance and foreign trade in Shandong province as well. Some of the local companies, such as Haier, Hisense, Tsingtao Brewery and Aucma, are widely recognized. Qingdao has established practical and extensive connections with foreign countries and overseas organizations for economic cooperation and exchange, resulting in a stable increase of business involving foreign economy and trade.

Qingdao, a city full of hospitality as frank and hearty as the sea, welcomes friends from all over the world.

Miss you, my hometown.

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My hometown is QIngdao. Then I attend Mathematics department, University of Science and Technology of China.
I am pursuing my PhD degree in Mathematics, Nanyang Technological University, now.

university of science and technology of china introduction (USTC) - Alma Mater

• USTC INTRODUCTION

  • The University of Science and Technology of China (USTC) is a prominent university in China and enjoys an excellent reputation worldwide. It was established by the Chinese Academy of Sciences (CAS) in 1958 in Beijing, as a strategic action by the Chinese government, to meet China’s science and technology needs and increases the country’s international competitiveness. CAS integrated its resources with USTC, with the aim of educating top talent in cutting-edge, interdisciplinary science and technology. The establishment of USTC was hailed as “a great event in the history of education and science of China”. In 1970, USTC moved to its current location in Hefei, the capital of Anhui Province.

    
    

    
    

    
    

    
    

    
    

    From the start, USTC’s mission has been to “focus on frontier areas of science and technology and educate top leaders in science and technology for China and the world”. Central to its strategy has been the combination of education and research, as well as the emphasis on quality rather than quantity. Led by the most renowned Chinese scientists of the time, USTC set up a series of programs creatively encompassing frontier research and development of new technology. As a result, the university has taken the lead in higher education in China. USTC has accomplished several “firsts” in China. For example, USTC established the first graduate school in China, initiated the first class for gifted young people in China and built the first “big science facility” in China, the Hefei Synchrotron Radiation Facility.

    
    

    
    

    
    

    
    

    
    

    USTC is one of the most important innovation centers in China. It is the only university in China operating two national labs: the National Synchrotron Radiation Laboratory and the Hefei National Laboratory for Physical Sciences at the Microscale. It also jointly operates two national “big science” facilities along with CAS institutes: the Experimental Advanced Superconducting Tokamak and the Steady High Magnetic Field of the High Magnetic Field Laboratory.

    USTC is a world leader in fields like quantum manipulation, nanotechnology, high-temperature superconductivity, speech processing, fire science and life science. It is always ranked as one of the best universities in China. For example, USTC was ranked first among Chinese universities from 2008 to 2014 by Nature Publishing Index China. In addition, USTC attaches great importance to technology transfer and has incubated dozens of high-tech enterprises. Furthermore, it jointly built the Institute of Advanced Technology (IAT) with Hefei City in 2012, aiming to better promote the combination of education, research and industry. USTC-IAT focuses on fostering technological innovation and technology transfer in the IT industry, as well as microelectronics, health care, new energy, new materials and quantum information, etc.

    
    

    
    

    

    
    

    
    

    USTC is regarded in China as the “Cradle of Scientific Elites”. Its educational principle emphasizes fundamental theories and provides students with a wide range of high-level training that incorporates newly emerging as well as interdisciplinary fields of study. The faculty-to-student ratio is one of the best among Chinese universities. Admission to USTC is extremely selective. Only the top 0.3-0.5 percent of high school graduates are admitted. Over 70 percent of undergraduate students are involved in the Research Program for Undergraduate Students in CAS research institutes or national labs on campus. USTC has the highest percentage of alumni, among Chinese universities, elected as members of CAS and the Chinese Academy of Engineering. Doctoral dissertations at USTC are frequently awarded the Hundred Annual Outstanding Dissertations Prize, which honors the top dissertations from Chinese universities.

    Total enrollment for spring 2014 is about 14,600 students, of whom 7,300 are undergraduates, 4,500 are master’s students, and 2,800 are Ph.D. students. USTC has 1,600 faculty members, of whom 550 are professors. USTC has 15 degree-granting schools in the fields of physical sciences, life sciences, information science and technology, earth and space sciences, public affairs, nuclear science and technology, mathematical sciences, chemistry and material science, engineering science, computer science and technology, management, humanities and social science, environmental science and electro-optical technology, and software engineering, as well as a school for gifted youth.

    
    

    
    

    

    
    

    
    

    USTC actively participates in international cooperation in various ways. It has engaged in joint research and educational activities with internationally acclaimed organizations such as the International Thermonuclear Experimental Reactor (ITER), the European Organization for Nuclear Research (CERN), the Max Planck Society, Oxford University, Heidelberg University, Stanford University, MIT, Princeton University, the University of California, Berkeley, and Yale University, etc. For example, it established a training program with ITER and initiated the SUM program, a summer camp for students and an academic forum for professors from Stanford University, USTC and MIT. USTC is also a member of several important international networks, including the Association of Pacific Rim Universities and the Association of East Asian Research Universities, etc. In 2013, USTC hosted the signing ceremony for the Hefei Statement, which USTC has actively promoted. The Hefei Statement is an agreement among the Association of American Universities (AAU), the C9 League (C9), a consortium of China’s top nine research universities, the Group of Eight (Go8), a coalition of Australia’s top universities, and the League of European Research Universities (LERU) to promote cooperation among world-class research universities.

    
    

    
    

Top 5 Ways To Prevent Wrinkles From Showing Up On Your Face - Make You Look Younger

Most women are very sensitive about getting wrinkles on their faces. Even though aging is a natural process, it can be unpleasant and painful. So, how do you avoid or prevent wrinkles from showing up on your face? Let’s take a look at 5 natural ways.
1. Eat right
Skin is the largest organ in the body. It literally reflects the condition of your entire body and its organs. Eating right can keep you and your skin healthy. Avoid consuming too much of fatty and sweet foods. Eat enough vegetables, fruits, fish, seeds and nuts to supply your skin with antioxidants and vitamins. They can stop or slow down the process of aging.
2. Drink right
Keeping your skin hydrated is essential for its healthy and young look. So, drink lots of water. You need to avoid drinks that dehydrate your skin, especially alcohol and soda. Alcohol damages your liver, which reflects on your skin and gives your face an old and lusterless look. Soda damages your kidneys.
3. Cleanse right
This is one of the golden rules of younger looking skin. Your skin renews itself everyday. In order to bring the rejuvenated skin to the fore, you need to get rid of dead skin cells by throwing them off your body. Proper cleansing can help your skin to exfoliate faster and to prevent such skin problems, as acne. This keeps skin looking young and healthy.
4. Steam right
Steaming can be a part of cleansing process. When you steam your face, you can use a facial sauna device or just bow down over a pan of hot water. Steaming helps to open up your pores. It removes dead cells, extra sebum and dirt. It makes your skin softer and prevents wrinkles.
5. Massage right
There is a special kind of massage that can help you to keep your facial skin looking young and to prevent sagging. You can do it yourself. You have to relax your face muscles. Gently, but actively massage all over your face. Such a massage relaxes your face muscles as also lessens the number of wrinkles. It would be ideal if you could ask a professional to massage your face every fortnight. You’d find a noticeable difference in the shine and luster of your skin.


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Fabulous at Every Age: 11 Looks That Never Get Old - Fitting C louses Are Important

Actress
The Beasts of the Southern Wild star—and youngest Best Actress nominee ever—prefers wearing sneakers, jeans, and "dresses that spin," though it's her penchant for accessorizing that's gotten her the most style attention so far: Wallis carried adorable puppy purses during awards season, including on Oscar night.
Favorite Things
Anything pink and the aforementioned purses. "I have dogs and cats. I can't travel with my real dog, so I carry the purses."
Wouldn't Be Caught Dead In
"An all-black outfit without sparkle."
Style Secret
"Always keep a little shine on your lips, and smile."


Julianne Goldmark, 17, and Emily Matson, 18
In the grand tradition of the Olsen twins—who Matson and Goldmark deem "inspirational"—these teens run Emi-Jay, the multimillion-dollar hair accessories company that they started out of Goldmark's kitchen in 2009 (i.e., when they were in eighth grade).
Fashion Crush
Matson: "I'm inspired by what's on the runways—especially Givenchy and Céline." Goldmark: "I love everything Chanel."
Favorite Things
Goldmark: "Fun statement jackets." Matson: "I keep my clothes simple but add pop with bags and accessories."
Wouldn't Be Caught Dead In
Bows, ruffles, and ballet flats. "When we first started, we loved a lot of Gossip Girl looks," says Matson. "But we've matured stylistically since then."

Kilo Kish, 22
Singer
Whether she's relaxing or promoting her latest album, K+, Kish likes clothes that are comfy—but never, ever boring. "I'm a little bit of a tomboy—I wear jeans, boots, and leather jackets," she says. "But when I perform, I'm supergirly."
Fashion Crush
"I admire southern preppy and NYC art school style."
Favorite Things
Topshop, Alexander Wang, and Stella McCartney.
Wouldn't Be Caught Dead In
Uncomfortable heels. "I like to look cute, but if your feet hurt, you won't be jumping on tables."
Style Secret
"Mixing prints works if the pieces are in the same color family."
Note to Younger Self
"Don't waste time trying to look like someone else."

Hannah Simone, 32
Actress
As Cece, the cynical foil to Zooey Deschanel's bubbly Jess in Fox's New Girl, Simone's onscreen look is "off-duty model": jeans, tanks, and body-conscious dresses. But her real style is more eclectic. "My family moved every few years, so I have a scarf from India, a skirt from Cyprus, jewelry from London."
Fashion Crush
Sophia Loren. "And girls who express themselves through effortless, identifiable style every day."
Favorite Thing
A weekly hair-oil mask.
Wouldn't Be Caught Dead On
A diet. "The moment you deprive yourself, you're making life less fun."
Style Secret
Wear your size. "Even a size 4 can look bad if she's trying to squeeze into a size 2."
Note to Younger Self
Skincare is all about consistency. "The fanciest face cream won't work if you use it only twice a week."

Laura Cunningham, 42
Restaurant Consultant
With two decades of operations experience—most of it in fiancé chef Thomas Keller's lauded restaurants—Cunningham has her work uniform locked down: "People joke that I was born in a suit!" But her after-hours look is softer: Mother jeans, J.Crew, and "anything from The Row and Céline."
Fashion Crush
Audrey Hepburn.
Favorite Things
Ballet Bodies training sessions and Tracie Martyn skin products.
Wouldn't Be Caught Dead In
Florals or prints. "I could probably wear jeans and boots and a black sweater every day and be perfectly happy with that."
Style Secret
"Accentuate what you have and stick to it. I've become a creature of habit with the colors and lines I wear."
Note to Younger Self "Slow down and figure out how to feel great from within by focusing on diet and exercise. Putting more makeup on when your face breaks out only patches up the problem."

Carey Lowell, 52
Actress
She may have been a model, Law & Order star, and Bond Girl, but Lowell was a reluctant celebrity: "All eyes are on you when you're modeling and acting, and I just didn't want the attention when I wasn't working," she says. "But as I've gotten older, I've become more comfortable with my body and am taking more fashion risks."
Fashion Crushes
Katharine Hepburn and Charlotte Gainsbourg.
Favorite Things
A men's-style shirt and jeans. "I've always had a tomboy look. But I wear more high heels now."
Wouldn't Be Caught Dead In Sweatpants or thigh-high boots and a miniskirt.
Style Secret
"I've been gluten-free for ten years, and it makes such a difference—it keeps my skin clear," says the actress, a ceramics artist who also owns Bedford Post Inn in New York with Russell Hernandez and husband Richard Gere.
Note to Younger Self
"Don't be so hard on yourself! I used to always buy clothes too big, but I should have showed off instead of covering up."

Alana Stewart, 64
Actress and Author
The former model and talk-show host, whose juicy memoir, Rearview Mirror, was published last fall, refuses to be defined by her age. "We're as old as we see ourselves," says Stewart, who has three children with ex-husbands George Hamilton and Rod Stewart. "When I turned 50, I stopped counting!"
Fashion Crush
Marisa Berenson. "She wears great jewelry and puts herself together in a way I couldn't possibly do."
Favorite Things
Oscar de la Renta and Pucci dresses; Diane von Furstenberg and Rag & Bone casual wear. "Things that are understated, not overtly sexy."
Wouldn't Be Caught Dead In
"Big, clunky shoes that look like you're wearing boxes on your feet."
Style Secret
Accent neutrals with brights. "I'm obsessed with these blue shoes."
Note to Younger Self
"Follow your own style and don't be a slave to fashion. Choose a few pieces you love and wear them often."

Agnes Gund, 74
Arts Patron and Philanthropist
The president emerita of New York's Museum of Modern Art and chairwoman of MOMA PS1 considers herself more an aesthete than a fashion plate. "I'm interested in how people use design to not only look more attractive but be more interesting," says the grandmother of 12 who still attends "two or three events" every night.
Fashion Crush
"I love Vera Wang's attitude and style. She did my daughter's wedding dress."
Favorite Things
Ralph Rucci, Akris, and vintage Geoffrey Beene. "I could wear Beene's pants because I have no bottom, which is both good and bad."
Wouldn't Be Caught Dead In
Nail polish. "I got a manicure for the shoot, but I usually don't wear it."
Style Secret
"I like scarves—they call attention away from a sagging neck." Gund also swears by NYDJ jeans: "They flatter even when your weight goes up and down."
Note to Younger Self
"Be more confident. If you're not, you can fall into awful ways of not standing up and projecting yourself."

Rita Moreno, 81
Entertainer
The legendary actress-singer-dancer (and now author, with the recent publication of Rita Moreno: A Memoir) looks back on her fashion history with amusement. "I loved tight dresses, and everything was excessive: too much color, too much makeup, too much everything!" she says, laughing. "I'm really more judicious now."
Fashion Crush
"Cate Blanchett. She is the personification of elegance and glamour."
Favorite Things
Jackets. "You can look so smart with so little effort if you have just the right jacket."
Wouldn't Be Caught Dead In
A miniskirt. "There's something so embarrassing about older women trying to look younger."
Style Secret
"I'm very short-waisted, so I never wear a belt unless it's a hip belt."
Note to Younger Self"
"I would have told myself to tone it down a lot. I didn't feel very pretty, and the only way I felt presentable was to hide beneath a layer of pancake makeup."

Ida Keeling, 97
Sprinter
Keeling ran her first race at 67, in an attempt to lift a depression brought on by the drug-related deaths of her two sons. "People flew past me, but after it was over, I felt relieved, like I ran out my sadness," says Keeling, who broke the U.S. sprinting record for her age group in 2012, finishing the 100-meter dash in just under 52 seconds. "Exercise is very uplifting."
Fashion Crush
Haircare guru Madame C.J. Walker.
Favorite Things
"I like whatever fits me and looks nice on me—skirts, pants, nice blouses," says the 4'6", 83-pound great-great-grandmother. "But mostly I like activewear."
Wouldn't Be Caught Dead In
An above-the-knee skirt. "I'm an old lady!"
Style Secret
"Rest is so important. After you get home, take off your shoes and working clothes and take a 45-minute rest. You'll feel much better."
Note to Younger Self
"Don't wait for somebody to love you; love yourself. Do what you need to do, not what you want to do. Eat for nutrition, not for taste. And try to stay calm if you can."


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15 Simple Ways To Supercharge Your Brain – Make Brain More Powerful

Your brain is the engine that controls every action you perform, so needless to say, you should keep it supercharged and ready for action throughout the day. Here are 15 scientifically-proven (but yet surprisingly simple) ways to recharge your brain!
1. Take a daily Vitamin B12 supplement
Vitamin B12 doesn’t just supercharge your brain, it actually grows the size of your brain! As you age, your brain gets smaller, which Vitamin B12 fights. The vitamin has also been proven to help you learn, concentrate, think critically, and even boost your test scores! Taking a Vitamin B complex supplement will ensure you get your daily recommended dose.
2. Eat a lighter dinner, earlier
Eating an earlier, lighter dinner has a ton of health benefits (like that it helps you lose weight), and it can also supercharge your brain. Eating earlier helps you sleep better because it gives your body more time to digest food properly, and prevents food and alcoholic beverages from disrupting your sleep. It also provides your brain with a more consistent flow of energy, without spiking your blood sugar levels like a huge, late dinner can.
3. Eat more almonds
Almonds are referred to as a superfood for a reason. In addition to their innumerable health benefits, almonds and other nuts “are good sources of the antioxidant vitamin E, which is associated with less cognitive decline as you age.” They’re also chock full of amino acids and essential oils, which help your brain focus. Just be careful about eating too many—there are about 150 calories in 20 almonds, though they’re great for you in small doses.
4. Listen to music
Numerous studies have shown that listening to slow, relaxing music slows down your pulse and heart rate, lowers your blood pressure, and actually decreases the level of stress hormones in your body. Listening to music is healthy, recharges your brain, and best of all, is a ton of fun. What’s not to love?
5. Meditate
I’ve had a daily 30-minute meditation ritual for a few years, and can’t recommend the practice enough. Meditation is proven to help your mind de-stress and relax, and the practice has even been shown to reduce your blood pressure and levels of stress hormones! I also find that meditation allows me to de-fragment my thoughts, which heightens my ability to learn and retain information.
6. Drink apple juice
According to one study, “apples and apple juice may be among the best foods that baby boomers and senior citizens could add to their diet” because they help your body produce essential types of neurotransmitters that aid your memory, and help you retain information. Apples and apple juice have even been shown to protect your brain, and reduce your risk of Alzheimer’s!
7. Have more sex
Sex is a lot of fun, but did you know it can help you supercharge your brain as well? Sex has been proven to cure headaches, reduce your stress levels, help you sleep better, increase blood flow to your brain, and increase your brain power in general!
8. Spend time with friends and family
Spending time with your friends and family has “far-reaching benefits for your health.” Belonging to, and investing in a social support network rejuvenates your brain and provides you with more energy and inspiration, increasing your security, self-worth, sense of belonging, and even reducing your stress levels.
9. Go for a massage
Massages are so beneficial for your body and mind that I’m surprised more people don’t take them. “Clinical studies show that even a single 1.5-hour session can significantly lower heart rate, cortisol levels and insulin levels—all of which help reduce stress,” and rejuvenate your mind. Especially if your health plan covers massages, going for a massage is a no-brainer.
10. Read
Reading is a powerful way to provide your mind with an escape, and one study found that reading can reduce your mental stress by an astounding 68% because, “your mind is invited into a literary world that is free from the stressors that plague your daily life.”
11. Invest time in a creative hobby
When you invest time and attention in a creative hobby, as with reading, you provide your mind with a much-needed escape from your day-to-day stressors. You jump into a zone that has no pressures, deadlines, or rules, and provide your mind with a chance to recharge. Whether you’re into writing, painting, or woodworking, investing time in a creative hobby is a fantastic way to supercharge your brain.
12. Exercise, or play sports
Exercise has consistently been shown to be one of the most productive ways to supercharge your brain. It has been proven to make you procrastinate less, focus more, act more disciplined, and even “[reorganize] your brain to be more resilient to stress” in the long run!
13. Expose yourself to more natural light
Too much exposure to artificial light zaps your brain of energy, gives you less control over your attention, and even affects the quality of your sleep! Especially if you expose yourself to a lot of artificial light, expose your body to natural light to supercharge your mind.
14. Go for a nature walk
Going for a nature walk not only provides your body with exercise, but it also significantly rejuvenates your mind. One study found that, even when it was dead-cold outside, participants’ memory and attention spans improved by 20% when they took a walk through nature! To give your mind an even more productive break, I personally recommend leaving your phone and iPod at home when you head out.
15. Stop multi-tasking
When you try to take on too many things in one moment, your mind can become overwhelmed and eventually, something has to give. Multi-tasking has a huge impact on your productivity, but it also can impact your brain. Multi-tasking affects your memory, because it makes it harder for you to distinguish between what’s important and what isn’t. It has also been shown to make you more prone to errors, and add stress to your life. The solution? Stop multi-tasking!

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The 6 Biggest Skincare Mistakes - Take Care of Beauty

The 6 Biggest Skincare Mistakes
You already know it’s a sin to go to bed without washing your face (right?!), but that’s just one of many common bad habits that can seriously screw with your skin.
To determine the most unforgivable beauty mistakes, we talked to board certified dermatologist Debra Luftman, M.D., co-author of The Beauty Prescription and dermatologist for Simple skincare. Brace yourself for some tough love—trust us, your skin will thank you later!
Mistake #1: You pile on the products We’ve all done it—you hear rave reviews about a new treatment and immediately think, Omigod, I need that! Before you know it, your beauty arsenal consists of toners, moisturizers, scrubs, retinols, cleansers, creams, and more. Not only is applying all of these products excessive and time-consuming, but you run the risk of irritating your skin. According to Luftman, your daily skincare routine should really cap off at three to four products. “You only need a cleanser, daily sunscreen, and a treatment-oriented product—like a moisturizer, acne treatment, or anti-aging product,” Luftman says.
If you’re constantly tempted by a new mask or cream that you bought, keep it out of sight so you only use it occasionally. And nix harsh scrubs and toners from your daily routine—they should only be used two to three times per week, Luftman says.
Mistake #2: You skimp on sleep and water  There’s a reason your face resembles a celebrity mug shot after a night of partying. “Sleep and hydration are essential for skin health,” Luftman says. Not getting enough water can literally leave your skin thirsty, making it look dry and dull, so make sure you’re drinking enough water every day (and it’s not necessarily just eight glasses!). And hitting the sheets a little earlier can help give you a healthier glow. “Sleep is so important for skin turnover and for blood volume coming to the skin,” Luftman says. “It just makes all the difference in the world.” Stay fresh-faced by aiming for the recommended 7-8 hours of sleep each night.
Mistake #3: You pick products that try to do too much When a single product promises you clearer skin, fewer wrinkles, and smaller pores, who wouldn’t want to snatch that up? The problem: It’s highly unlikely that a product will contain enough of each ingredient to live up to all of those claims—and if does, it’s probably too harsh for your skin. “Women are now tending to use products that multitask. Unfortunately, that means choosing products with more and often irritating ingredients,” Luftman says. Her suggestion: Check out the ingredient label—anything after the first three ingredients isn’t doing much. Instead, stick to products with fewer ingredients that are targeting a specific issue, says Luftman.
Mistake #4: You put on products a little haphazardly   Yes, it actually matters which products you put on first, which ones you combine, and when you apply them! When it comes to layering products, you want to put on the treatment-oriented product first, says Luftman. For example, if you’re using a retinol or acne treatment, you should apply that before a basic moisturizer. And talk to a dermatologist before using more than one product with irritating ingredients, like benzoyl peroxide or salicylic acid—two common OTC acne-fighters. Finally, use harsher products like retinols at night, since they can make your skin more sun sensitive, says Luftman.
Mistake #5: You leave your makeup on at the gym We know it can be a little unnerving to work out totally bare-faced, but your skin will be better for it. Even mineral makeup formulas that swear they won’t clog your pores can still cause you to break out after a sweat session, says Luftman. Keep makeup removing wipes in your gym bag so that you have no excuses. Feeling too exposed? You can get away with wearing a very basic tinted moisturizer—just make sure it’s oil free, says Luftman.
Mistake #6: You’re skipping a daily sunscreen We know you’ve heard it a million times, but it’s worth repeating: “The most important step not to miss on a daily basis is the use of an SPF,” says Luftman. Not only can it protect you against sunburns and skin cancer, but new research found that people who use a daily sunscreen with SPF 15 or higher have significantly younger-looking skin. Luftman’s suggestion: Simple’s Protecting Light Moisturizer with SPF 15, an oil-free formula that shields against UVA and UVB rays. In this case, it’s fine to let a moisturizer pull double-duty as a sunscreen (See mistake #3). If you plan to be in the sun for an extended period of time, be sure to layer on something a little stronger—like SPF 30 or higher.


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How To Pick Your Life Partner - Partner Is Important and Whole Life

How To Pick Your Life Partner
So you’ve got more ideas about how to pick your life partner in Part 1. Here Wait But Why explores more on what makes a happy life partnership.
Often, the key to succeeding at something big is to break it into its tiniest pieces and focus on how to succeed at just one piece.
When we examined procrastination, we talked about how a great achievement is just what a long series of unremarkable tasks looks like from far away. In the pixel post, we looked at a human life up close and saw that it was just an ordinary Wednesday, again and again and again—and that achieving life happiness was all about learning to be happy on a routine weekday.
I think the same idea applies to marriage.
From afar, a great marriage is a sweeping love story, like a marriage in a book or a movie. And that’s a nice, poetic way to look at a marriage as a whole.
But human happiness doesn’t function in sweeping strokes, because we don’t live in broad summations—we’re stuck in the tiny unglamorous folds of the fabric of life, and that’s where our happiness is determined.
So if we want to find a happy marriage, we need to think small—we need to look at marriage up close and see that it’s built not out of anything poetic, but out of 20,000 mundane Wednesdays.
Marriage isn’t the honeymoon in Thailand—it’s day four of vacation #56 that you take together. Marriage is not celebrating the closing of the deal on the first house—it’s having dinner in that house for the 4,386th time. And it’s certainly not Valentine’s Day.
Marriage is Forgettable Wednesday. Together.
So I’ll leave the butterflies and the kisses in the rain and the twice-a-day sex to you—you’ll work that part out I’m sure—and spend this post trying to figure out the best way to make Forgettable Wednesday as happy as possible.
To endure 20,000 days with another human being and do so happily, there are three key ingredients necessary:
1. An Epic Friendship
I enjoy spending time with most of my friends—that’s why they’re my friends. But with certain friends, the time is so high-quality, so interesting, and so fun that they pass the Traffic Test.
The Traffic Test is passed when I’m finishing up a hangout with someone and one of us is driving the other back home or back to their car, and I find myself rooting for traffic. That’s how much I’m enjoying the time with them.
Passing the Traffic Test says a lot. It means I’m lost in the interaction, invigorated by it, and that I’m the complete opposite of bored.
To me, almost nothing is more critical in choosing a life partner than finding someone who passes the Traffic Test. When there are people in your life who do pass the Traffic Test, what a whopping shame it would be to spend 95% of the rest of your life with someone who doesn’t.
A Traffic Test-passing friendship entails:
A great sense of humor click. No one wants to spend 50 years fake laughing.
Fun. And the ability to extract fun out of unfun situations—airport delays, long drives, errands. Not surprisingly, studies suggest that the amount of fun a couple has is a strong predictor for their future.
A respect for each other’s brains and way of thinking. A life partner doubles as a career/life therapist, and if you don’t respect the way someone thinks, you’re not going to want to tell them your thoughts on work each day, or on anything else interesting that pops into your head, because you won’t really care that much what they have to say about it.
A decent number of common interests, activities, and people-preferences. Otherwise a lot of what makes you ‘you’ will inevitably become a much smaller part of your life, and you and your life partner will struggle to find enjoyable ways to spend a free Saturday together.
A friendship that passes the Traffic Test gets better and better with time, and it has endless room to deepen and grow ever-richer.
2. A Feeling of Home
If someone told you you had to sit in a chair for 12 straight hours without moving, aside from wondering why the hell they were making you do this, your first thought would be, “I better get in the most comfortable possible position”—because you’d know that even the slightest bit of discomfort would grow to pain and eventually, torture. When you have to do something for a long, long time, it’s best if it’s supremely comfortable.
When it comes to marriage, a perpetual “discomfort” between you and your partner can be a permanent source of unhappiness, especially as it magnifies over time, much like your torturous situation in the chair. Feeling “at home” means feeling safe, cozy, natural, and utterly yourself, and in order to have this feeling with a partner, a few things need to be in place:
Trust and security. Secrets are poison to a relationship, because they form an invisible wall inside the relationship, leaving both people somewhat alone in the world—and besides, who wants to spend 50 years lying or worrying about hiding something? And on the other side of secrets will often be suspicion, a concept that directly clashes with the concept of home. This is why having an affair during an otherwise good marriage is one of the most self-defeating and short-sighted things someone could ever do.
Natural chemistry. Interacting should be easy and natural, energy levels should be in the same vicinity, and you should feel on the same “wavelength” in general. When I’m with someone on a very different wavelength than I am, it doesn’t take long before the interaction becomes exhausting.
Acceptance of human flaws. You’re flawed. Like, really flawed. And so is your current or future life-partner. Being flawed is part of the definition of being a human. And one of the worst fates would be to spend most of your life being criticized for your flaws and reprimanded for continuing to have them. This isn’t to say people shouldn’t work on self-improvement, but when it comes to a life partnership, the healthy attitude is, “Every person comes with a set of flaws, these are my partner’s, and they’re part of the package I knowingly chose to spend my life with.”
A generally positive vibe. Remember, this is the vibe you’re a part of now, forever. It’s not really acceptable for it to be a negative one, nor is it sustainable. Relationship scientist John Gottman has found that “couples with a ratio of fewer than five positive interactions for every negative one are destined for divorce.”
3. A Determination to be Good at Marriage
Relationships are hard. Expecting a strong relationship without treating it like a rigorous part-time job is like expecting to have a great career without putting in any effort. In a time when humans in most parts of the world can enjoy freedom and carve their own path in life, it usually doesn’t sit that well to suddenly become half of something and compromise on a bunch of things you grew up being selfish about.
So what skills does someone need to learn to be good at marriage?
Communication. Communication being on this list is as silly as “oxygen” being on a list of items you need to stay healthy. And yet, poor communication is the downfall of a huge number of couples—in fact, in a study on divorcees, communication style was the top thing they said they’d change for their next relationship. Communication is hard to do well consistently—successful couples often need to create pre-planned systems or even partake in couples’ therapy to make sure it happens.
Maintaining equality. Relationships can slip into an unequal power dynamic pretty quickly. When one person’s mood always dictates the mood in the room, when one person’s needs or opinion consistently prevail over the other’s, when one person can treat the other in a way they’d never stand for being treated themselves—you’ve got a problem.
Fighting well. Fighting is inevitable. But there are good and bad ways to fight. When a couple is good at fighting, they defuse tension, approach things with humor, and genuinely listen to the other side, while avoiding getting nasty, personal or defensive. They also fight less often than a bad couple. According to John Gottman, 69% of a typical couple’s fights are perpetual, based on core differences, and cannot be resolved—and a skilled couple understands this and refrains from engaging in these brawls again and again.9
In searching for your life partner or assessing your current life partnership, it’s important to remember that every relationship is flawed and you probably won’t end up in something that gets an A in every one of the above items and bullet points—but you should hope to do pretty well on most of them, since each one plays a large part in your lifelong happiness.
And since this is a daunting list to try to achieve in a life partnership, you probably don’t want to make things even harder than they need to be by insisting upon too many other checkboxes—most of which will not have a large effect on your happiness during dinner #4,386 of your marriage. It would be nice if he played the guitar, but take it off the list of must-haves.
I hope Valentine’s Day was good for you this year, whatever you did for it. Just remember that Forgettable Wednesday is a much more important day.

From:
http://www.en8848.com.cn/Article/Love/Dating/69809.html

孩子健康 小常识 （儿童，幼儿）

孩子能够健康成长是都很关注的，对于孩子的护理也是很重要的，在孩子成长过程中的常识也是不能忽视的，那幼儿健康小常识有哪些?
一、幼儿健康小常识：膨化食品损害幼儿健康，降低宝宝免疫力
膨化食品比如薯条、虾条之类，这些食物因为口味香脆甜美是儿童最喜欢的食品之一，但是大多数家长不知道这类食物对孩子的健康影响非常大。
下面细数膨化食品有哪些危害：
1、属于垃圾食品没有营养价值，还有大量添加剂铅，长期食用会让孩子免疫力降低就引起咳嗽。
2、影响儿童智力发育，造成智力发育迟缓。
3、消化系统的损害，食欲降低。
4、膨化食品刺激儿童咽喉部，易让上呼吸道感染的儿童咳嗽加重。
因此膨化食品给幼儿健康带来很大的威胁，家长尽量让孩子少吃或者是不吃此类食品。
二、幼儿健康小常识：无营养价值又会致死人命的果冻
果冻也是儿童最喜欢的食物之一，果冻的食用说明中都标有一定年龄下的儿童不能食用，但是还是有的儿童误呛入气管难以去取出，或者导致死亡。家长尽量让儿童远离没有营养的果冻，以免造成生命威胁。
三、幼儿健康小常识：让孩子远离巧克力和糖果
巧 克力有很高营养这种说法不一定准确，简单说要看食品的蛋白质含量高低，比如牛羊肉、牛奶、海产品等食物的产品是高营养的食物，而巧克力属于高热量 食物，长期食用会造成孩子发胖，不利于健康。尤其注意孩子感冒药远离巧克力，食用巧克力会造成痰液粘稠不容易咳出。家长尽量避免让孩子食用含糖高热量食 物。

四、幼儿健康小常识：滥用抗生素的损害孩子健康
孩子出现头疼 发烧，对于没经验的家长会出现急躁，有的直接带着孩子就去医院输液，这种做法是不正确的。首先要观察病情，了解清楚最基本的小儿感冒发 烧护理，避免滥用抗生素。2005 年世界卫生组织召开专门的会议讨论关于滥用抗生素的问题。世界报告中，预计到2015年，地球上将会出现某些无敌细菌，将会出现患者无药可用的情况。中国 是滥用抗生素比重最高的国家，有的大医院都出现了无药可医的情况。
五、幼儿健康小常识：发烧，不当退时不宜退;激素，能不用时就不用
面 对孩子生病家长都基本存在这样的情况，恨不得一针就把孩子的发烧打下去。一般来说发烧不超过38.5度大可不要退烧，发烧也是人体免疫系统发挥作 用产生的正常反应，强行退烧反而会对免疫系统产生不良影响。孩子感冒发烧不一定非要去输液，滥用激素更是万万不可，不仅让孩子的免疫力越来越差，而且会影 响孩子的生长发育和智力发育。
六、幼儿健康小常识：中药一样能退烧，退烧速度不比西药慢
中医治标治本，西医治疗快效果显著，大多数家长为孩子治病都选择了西医。其实在我国几千年的中医实践中总结出了很多小儿治疗感冒发烧的方剂，很多传统的方剂退烧也很快，效果很显著而且副作用小。出现孩子生病，家长不妨去专业的中医院给孩子治疗，比西药副作用要少的多。
上述就是对幼儿健康小常识有哪些的介绍，现在应该是有了解了吧，对于孩子的健康发育是一定不能忽视的，希望本文对您有帮助，希望每个孩子都能健康。



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中老年身体健康 补血是关键

中老年人的身体机能在慢慢下降，容易出现气血不足、气血两虚，如果出现气血两虚的症状，就会表现出面色暗黄、体质虚弱、浑身无力、疲惫乏困等症状其实中老年人补气血很关键，他们该如何补气血呢?
1.运动养生
运动也是调养必不可少的一个环节。平时可以打打太极拳、保健气功、跳跳舞等舒缓运动。另外，传统中医学认为“久视伤血”，所以长时间坐在电脑前工作的职业女性，应该特别注意眼睛的休息和保养，防止因为过度用眼而耗伤身体的气血。
2.饮食调养
平 时应该多吃富含优质蛋白质、微量元素(铁、铜等)、叶酸和维生素B12的营养食物，如红枣、莲子、龙眼肉、核桃、山楂、猪肝、猪血、黄鳝、海参、 乌鸡、鸡蛋、菠菜、胡萝卜、黑木耳、黑芝麻、虾仁、红糖等，富含营养的同时，具有补血活血的功效。简单介绍几种补血食物的功效。
(1)红 枣，对于“一日三枣，青春不老”的红枣，它的补血功能当之无愧地排行第一。药王孙思邈就极力推崇大枣，认为大枣的养气补血叹为观止。红枣具 有极其惊人的补血效果，大枣中的氨基酸、维生素、核黄素等及各种微量元素都是人体不可或缺的营养物质。红枣最好以熟吃为主，蒸煮熬汤皆可，营养丰富，健脾 养胃，益血宁神。
(2)龙眼肉：龙眼肉就是桂圆肉，任何一家超市都有售。龙眼肉除了含丰富的铁质外还含有维生素A、B和葡萄糖、蔗糖等。补血的同时还能治疗健忘、心悸、神经衰弱和失眠症。龙眼汤、龙眼胶、龙眼酒之类也是很好的补血食物。
(3) 黑糯米、桂圆和红枣是春季养生食谱大家都知道的补血好咚咚，再加上营养价夏季养生减肥食谱值很高的山药，益气养血的功效更显着，每个月记得喝 哦，哈哈，黑糯米、红枣、桂儿童夏季养生食谱圆、山药、红糖，小小提醒桂圆虽然可以夏季养生 美容食谱补血气、促进血液循环，但是因为不易消化，每次尽量下7.8个就可以(寒胃的朋夏季养生食谱友可以下2片红参)。
(4)荷兰芹+牛奶
很 多人都不喜欢荷兰芹的特殊味道，其实，从营养学的角度来看，荷兰芹是非常好的食物，富含—胡萝卜素维生素C及铁等矿物质。大部分贫血都是缺铁造成 的缺铁性贫血，荷兰芹中含有丰富的铁，而且还有维生素C，帮助铁发挥作用。要想生成红细胞，必须要有蛋白质的加入，牛奶恰恰能发挥补充蛋白质的作用，把荷 兰芹捣碎后，加入适量牛奶，最后再加些蜂蜜调味，这样制成的饮品补 血的同时还能消除荷兰芹的特殊味道。
3.中药调养
常用的补血中药有当归、川芎、红花、熟地、桃仁、党参、黄芪、何首乌、枸杞子、山药、阿胶、丹参、玫瑰花等天然中药，用这些中药和补血的食物一起做成可口的药膳，均有很好的调节内分泌、养血效果。
这些食物均有补气养血的功能，不过对于有些牙齿脱落、胃功能消化不好的中老年人来说，应该选择一些柔软、易于消化的食物，而蜜莲阿胶膏就是一种非常好的选择，它是一种膏状物，由十六种珍贵的中药精心研制而成，不含激素，而且非常有利于人体吸收，对于补气养血有很好的效果。

健康很重要， 如何保持身心健康?

核心提示
    ★心理健康是指一种良好的心理和精神状态。具体而言，包括积极有效的心理状态、健康的人格、社交的能力、保持情绪的稳定性、具有抗打击和康复的能力。
    ★生活中的压力是不可避免的，压力会引起人身体中应激水平的增加，影响身体健康。要采用正确的方法应对压力，变害为利。
    ★适当宣泄是保持心理健康的途径。要继续保持身心健康，要从改变认知、参与社会交往、重视体育锻炼、张弛有度、合理安排时间和资源入手。
    心理健康
    是一种好的精神状态
    心理健康是指一种良好的心理和精神状态。心理健康的核心内涵，就是人的自尊，一个没有自尊的人是不可能有健康的。心理健康有四个主要的标准。第一，要有正 常的智力活动。第二，要具有情绪的协调能力。第三，具有与社会良好适应的能力。第四，具有对自己进行准确判断的能力。
    具体而言，心理健康主要包含以下几个方面：
    首先是积极有效的心理状态。能够对当前发展中的社会和自然环境做出良好的适应，不同层次的人当然反映也不一样。心理健康一定要有好的智力条件。
    另外需要健康的人格。健康的人格就是要有好的自我意识，知道自己是属于什么样的状态，跟周围是什么样的关系，这样就能做出比较准确的判断和选择。
    要有社交的能力，如果不会处理人际关系，再聪明的人也不会成功。要有良好的社交能力，需要把握一些重要的原则。第一是平等原则，不管贵贱高低，我们在人格 上都是平等的，要受人尊敬，而且要尊敬人；第二是相容性原则，人跟人肯定不一样，只能求大同存小异。每个人生活的过程不一样、习惯不同，所以大家都要互相 容忍一些，同事之间更是如此；第三是互惠互利原则。根据英国心理学家的一项调查，平均有三个朋友的人比没有三个朋友的人要多活三到五年。朋友很重要，但要 有好的朋友，朋友之间要互相关心，要互惠；第四是守信原则。守信从心理过程来讲就是保持一致性，使我们对将要发生的事情能有一个预测,有了好的预测，才能 有好的行为。
    要保持情绪的稳定性。人遇到高兴的事或者不高兴的事，都不能够情绪表现过激。在生活和工作中有很多事情是我们不能接受的，我们要学会自我控制，该忍耐就要忍耐，吸取经验教训，进一步提高。
    要具有抗打击和康复的能力。有些人遇到打击一下子就垮了，有些人能够在刺激中承受。如果一个人一辈子从来不受任何打击，大概很快就会面临灭顶之灾。
    要学会自我减压
    事物有两个方面，在变化时可能会产生不好的影响，比如说有些激素的分泌对我们的身体有抑制作用，对生长系统、免疫系统、抵抗炎症的系统都会有消极的影响。 有研究表明，女人比男人活的时间长，到底怎么回事？有一种说法是男人容易激动，一激动身体里激素就会升高，而女人不容易激动，所以女性身体自我保健比较 好，活的长。
    激动完了之后要更快地恢复平静。内部的改变集中在各个方面，比如说身体的各个系统，肌肉系统、心血管系统、胃肠系统，乃至于免疫系统，都会向不利的方向变化，这些不利的变化，如果得不到及时的纠正，将会导致身体极大的问题。
    第二次世界大战中，英国伦敦的居民胃出血普遍增加，医生很奇怪，饮食并没有改变，后来发现因为纳粹德国飞机的空袭，造成人高度的应激状态(生活拮据、工作 紧张、精神刺激等)导致胃出血。应激就是人对外界的特殊因素进行反映的过程。现在我们认识到，人在压力特别大的时候胃会出血，这是应激性的溃疡。在诺曼底 登陆时，盟军有很多士兵失去战斗能力，送到前线包扎所，后来发现有一半人都是好的，就是因为太紧张了失去了战斗能力。人张罗事情太多，消化系统会出现问 题，不仅仅是消化系统出现问题，甚至是呼吸系统、免疫系统，都可能由应激而导致一系列难以克服的问题，这些毛病都是医生开药治不好的，必须从应激源入手才 能从根本上解决。一些很严重的癌症和艾滋病，也都和应激水平有关系。
    现在发达国家的西医正在向生物的、心理的和社会的医学模式转变。中医一开始就是多维的模式，按照中医学的观点，任何情绪虽然是内部的情绪状态，但是都可能 会导致身体上的变化，所以中医学非常强调心病心医，不能大喜大悲。孔夫子提出人有三戒。少年的时候血气未定要戒色，因为年轻人的青春期就会有色，但这个时 候对人生的把握不全面，如果陷进去就完了。到壮年的时候，戒之在斗。有统计表明，一个地区25岁到35岁的光棍汉多了一定不稳定，因为没有家庭没有事业， 他的情绪也是抑郁状态，不稳定，很多闹事的都是在这个阶段。到了老了，戒之在得。老了，就是秋天了，是收获的季节，作为一个人，他也很自然地想我这辈子怎 样？得了多少了？看周围的谁发财了？这一比，总有不平衡，心动了，就有行动。“五九现象”，本来还有一年就可以安享退休的，最后被抓去坐牢了。戒之在得 啊！黄帝内经的论述，强调人要做到阴阳平和，凡事不要烦燥不安，处之泰然，没有什么可怕的。
    生活中时时刻刻存在着的各种各样的压力，压力不仅仅是纯粹来自我们的工作，而是生活的方方面面处处都有。有了压力带来的这些应激水平的增加，怎么办？人的 认知可以改变，而且是可以很好地改变。人看外部的事物有时候不能分的很清楚，而且脑子有一个定式，因为这个定式，很多东西都看不准了。一旦从一个崭新的视 角来看待事物，就另有一番天地。我们的脑子是可以改变的，我们要向有利的方向转变。
    有人一生气就猛吃，还有男士猛抽烟喝酒，这是不好的方式。有人根本不管，我躲着绕着走，比如说我不愿意看见谁，我每次看见都躲，但是实际上相当于我每次躲 就是碰见了一次，躲本身就是已经知道了。还有躺在床上不起来的，猛买东西，滥用药物等。对待压力我们要有正确的方法，要很好地应对。
    “只想当将军的士兵　不可能是好士兵”
    在受到挫折的时候要进行自我调整，调整的第一条非常简单，就是要知道这个挫折是一定会有的。
    要主动迎接挑战。巴尔扎克说过，世界上的事情不是永远绝对的，任何事的结果完全是因人而异。苦难对于有才能的人来说可能就是一个垫脚石，就是一笔财富，但 对弱者来说可能就是万丈深渊。心理学研究也证明了拿破仑的名言“不想当将军的士兵不是好士兵”，但是只想当将军的士兵也不可能是好的士兵。人要主动地调整 自己的目标，我们要设立一个远大目标，自己设立就可以了，任何事情都会有目标。很多事情不是主观决定的，主观努力确实重要，但是也有客观的因素。我们要积 极地培养个性的品质，培养自尊、自信，个性品质的核心就决定你对待一切事物包括你自己的最本质的态度。
    如果有烦恼我们要尽快地应对。应对的方法有很多，比如说不需要搞得很清楚，有的事情含糊一点就完了。郑板桥在山东潍坊当官，看到老百姓受苦了，他就让大户 援助老百姓，最后大户到朝廷告状将他罢官，他虽然生气，但发发牢骚说难得糊涂。任何事情都是有两面性的，辩证统一，好或者不好都要考虑。
    该哭的时候也要哭。哭很重要，从心理学来说，哭就是宣泄。我们心理上有问题，或者说我们受到压抑，该哭的时候就要大胆地哭出来，男士不好意思当众哭，可以躲在家里哭，家里不好意思哭，也可以躲在厕所里哭，厕所里不好意思哭，也可以去找一部感人的电影看，借机会哭。
    不要看得太认真。经常有人在背后说你不好的话，怎么办？你可能说他也不怎么样，互相说坏话，结果是狗咬狗一嘴毛。我们要变害为利。凡事都要从两面来看。你 可能觉得有吃有喝好，不下岗，有保障，但是可能失去了一辈子奋斗的机会，本来这个人可能有更大的机会，但是丧失了。下岗是坏事，遇到坏事我们要转化，平常 每天要上班，现在不需要上班了，人生最宝贵的就是时间，就看怎么支配了。还有，要加强对人生事件的心理预期，如果我们对人生要发生的那些事情有一个思想准 备，到时候就会从容应对。
    保持心理健康的四大途径
    第一个途径是认知。根据心理学的一些观点，人有自创的能力也有自毁的能力，将自创自保的能力发挥到极致，关键靠改变认知。科学实验告诉我们，改变了认知确 实有巨大的帮助。鲁迅的《纪念刘和珍君》有一个说法，说刘和珍被害已经一年了，“忘却的救主”降临了。我对这个“忘却的救主”不懂。后来我到美国学心理学 才知道，西方把对我们天然有利的思维方式都称为“救主”。人有一个本能，就是“忘却的救主”，这在西方就发展出一套医治理论，如果我们将不好的东西主动排 除，就会促使我们的自主神经系统往好的方向发展。
    认知的第二个方面，也是最根本的方面，就是我们自尊的问题。自尊是个体人格的核心因素之一，也是人的基本需求，它是一种深层次的生命感受。自尊有正面的和 负面的态度，包括了认知成分，也包括了感情的成分，是一个结合体，高自尊会使我们能够有较强的主动性和良好的自我感觉。自尊心高的人在同样的条件下自我感 觉比较好，美国一项研究发现，高自尊的人在面对困难的时候坚持不懈继续努力，生活的满意度相对也比较高。自尊和身心健康关系比较明确，比如说相关系数，是 正的相关，自尊心越高，身心也健康，自尊心越低身心也不健康，这是正相关。相反来看，自尊心和羞怯的程度是不相关的。自尊心高的人，他也会失败，但是失败 之后产生的抑郁和焦虑要比低自尊心的人缓冲很多，而且高自尊心的人他可以倾向于用提高自我的办法来应对困难，比如说我做生意这次失败了，那没有关系，说明 这个生意还是低水平的，以后我做高水平的生意，可能还是会成功的。用自尊心测量问卷，将自尊心最高二十个和最低的二十个人都请来，做一件同样的事情都受到 失败，我们发现高自尊心比低自尊心的人受到的压抑低。我们告诉他们这只是一个测验，失败了不是你们的原因，而是别的原因，结果发现两组情绪都有改善，高自 尊心的人改善要更为明显。
    要改变性格特点。我们有很多人具有A型性格的倾向，A型是不是血型？不是的，是性格。最早提出“A型性格”这一概念的是一位美国学者弗瑞德门。他在观察研 究了大量的冠心病人之后发现，可用4个单词来概括其特性：易恼火(Aggration)、激动(Irritation)、发怒(Angger)和急躁 (Impatience)。这4个英文单词的第一个字母分别为AIAI，其中有2个A字，弗氏便称其为“A型性格”。一个共同的特点就是人好生气。前不久 有研究表明，老是对别人有意见的人容易得心脏病。A型性格是不是就不能改变，前面我们已经说过认知就怕你不知道，一旦知道改变很容易，比如说下棋输了又怎 样，大家玩一玩，玩的过程中我努力赢，但是输了也没有关系。
    毛主席说过要保存自己消灭敌人，不要以为退下来很容易，退让是非常聪明的、具有崇高哲学的水平运动。人都会有错的。认识这一点很重要，要时时防着你可能 错，可能失败。因为世界上的事情都是有万一的，万一失手了，有1%还有回手的余地。我们生活中也是一样，任何一件事情，不要以为百分之百，一定要留有余 地，如果事情坏了还有回旋的余地。我们生活中经常是该躲的不躲，所以搞得恶性循环。
    保持心理健康的第二个途径是从社会交往入手。人是社会的人，只有在社会的交往过程中才能够保持健康的心态。
    保持心理健康的第三个途径是重视适度的体育锻炼，特别是那些有助于我们心理平静的体育锻炼。适度的体育锻炼，不单纯使我们血液循环增快、代谢改变、耗氧，而且对心灵也是巨大的安抚。
    保持心理健康还要从业余活动入手。古人云，要读万卷书行万里路。如果我们见识广了，爱好广泛，自然而然什么问题都看得清楚。要学会放松，尽管我们很忙碌， 十分钟的时间可以留出来，在这十分钟里有一个舒适的坐姿，从上到下放松，如果不会放松，你就可以把肩膀绷紧，绷久了你肯定受不了，慢慢就会放松了。还有面 部，放松和紧张要相对应。
    对于压力，我们首先要承认我们都是有压力的，而且压力是不可避免的。我们要分析一下，这个压力处在什么环境，是什么因素造成的，我们能否脱离这个压力的环 境。可以有一系列的方法来应对压力。第一，做事不要超出可操控的范围。举一个最简单的例子，开汽车什么时候感觉安全，感觉要飘起来，有点不可控制了，肯定 不安全，感觉应付自如肯定是安全的。第二，感觉有压力发生，不要当作没有，要赶紧应对。第三，人生在世要学会孔夫子说的“随心所欲，不逾矩”，灵活机动才 能够更好地生存，该逃的时候要逃，逃并不是怕死而是为了更好地进攻。第四，不要太后悔，所有人都会犯错，歌德说，人只要奋斗就会犯错。什么都不干肯定不会 错，只要干事肯定会有错，有错没有关系，下次少一点错就可以了。第五，要有自信心，现在广告说“我能”，能是第一条，然后看能到什么程度。第六，不要张罗 太多事，有的事要学会拒绝，做不了的事要用婉转的办法来拒绝。第七，生活要有变化，但是不要变得太多。第八，人生在每一个阶段一定会有事情发生，对这个事 情都要有思想准备。第九，要善于宣泄，不要老是心里压抑，对身体不好。
    保持心理健康的第四个途径是学会安排时间和资源，避免发生冲突。首先要找准目标和重点，根据事件的轻重缓急来组织我们的时间，重要的事情先做，要学会将复 杂的事情搞简单。心理学有很多实验证明，同时做两件事情永远做不好。要面对现实，哪怕你再忙也要安排时间放松，这是可以做到的。想一想放松可以让你活很多 年，何不拿点时间放松？也要学会放弃，前途有一些不确定性，因此张罗的事太多，搞得身心疲惫，统统不放弃结果什么都得不到，舍得舍得，有舍才能得。要调动 自己的情绪，不要让自己厌倦。当领导干部的年初做计划，然后实施、报告、评比，第二年又来做计划等等，年年这么搞肯定会烦，因此要有新的工作思路、新的工 作方法。现在有一种职业倦怠，凡是付出多的人，比如说护士、中小学老师、警察，如果不进行心理调整就会倦怠，表现为不愿意干事、情绪恶劣。要关注你的健 康，要睡到自然醒，如果不能睡到自然醒，要胸中有数，已经亏了自己了，要想办法弥补。不要暴饮暴食。千万不要乱吃药，一定要看正规的医生而且是负责任的医 生。要避免不良的行为和习惯，比如说半夜不睡觉，烟抽得多喝酒也多。要帮助别人发展友谊，同时也要接受自己。只要我们重视了心理健康，并懂得一些心理学的 知识、了解一些保持心理健康的方法，每个人都能够做到身心健康、精神愉快、工作顺利。

Long Time Emotional Sad Music (Sleeping Relaxing Music) (MELODY OF THE NIGHT)

Like the soft music. It Makes me feel sad especially when it is rainy days. Sometimes, I would like to listen to it before sleeping, relaxing myself from anxiety and tiredness ...

I just made this video in my spare time.

Long Time Emotional Sad Piano Soft Music 3 (Sleeping Relaxing Music) (MELODY OF THE NIGHT)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KiNKYD9VRK8

Long Time Emotional Sad Piano Soft Music 2 (Sleeping Relaxing Music) (MELODY OF THE NIGHT)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KF0_p5XdJfs

Long Time Emotional Sad Piano Soft Music 3 (Sleeping Relaxing Music) (yedegangqinqu)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HgemMetVPP4

Video: Essayjeans (谷雨) (http://www.tetraph.com/essayjeans)
(http://www.tetraph.com/wangjing)





Music: MELODY OF THE NIGHT (夜的钢琴曲(1-10), 石进)
Picture: Danboard (纸盒人)

中文

喜欢夜的钢琴曲这个轻音乐。它令我感到忧伤和心痛，尤其是下雨天。有时，睡觉前会听上一段。放松一天的疲惫 …

闲来无聊，做了个视频 …

视频地址:http://www.letv.com/ptv/vplay/20129774.html

视频: Essayjeans (谷雨)   (http://www.tetraph.com/essayjeans)

音乐: MELODY OF THE NIGHT (夜的钢琴曲， 石进)